This is a reprint of an article taken from an interview with one of my close colleagues—Dr. Faizal H. Sahukhan. It is reprinted with permission. I hope you enjoy it.
Learning The Language Of Self
Effective communication involves more than merely expressing emotions. But decoding emotion is no easy task.
Feelings form a basic element of human interaction. Even brief day-to-day encounters involve an exchange of emotion, whether it’s a kiss goodbye as your kids catch the school bus, a quick catch-up with a client over lunch, or a friendly nod to a passerby on the street.
How we express feelings is determined by a complex matrix of innate personality traits and tendencies, cultural and familial influences, as well as the context or social setting. It’s hard work, but learning to better communicate emotion could impact your physical and psychological health and improve the quality of relationships in your home and work life.
Are you thinking about getting some help for emotional issues you are experiencing? Have you tried everything you can think of to solve the issues that you find yourself facing, without any luck? Are you ready to throw in the towel and give up, but realize that there are professionals out there that can help you sort out the issues that have been causing you such stress and sadness?
I have been a counsellor, in private practice, for the past 20 years. Here are some observations and tools I would like to give you to help you get the most out of your sessions with a professional therapist.
Forgiveness is a concept which, in its true form, is very difficult to grasp and even more difficult to explain.
Forgiveness is something that we all do, some of us on a more regular basis than others. So let’s look at why we forgive.
Sometimes we forgive a perceived transgression so we can be friends again with the perpetrator of the transgression and get on with a relationship with that person. Sometimes we forgive because it is the only way we can maintain a relationship with a family member. And sometimes we forgive so we can get on with our life without the bitterness and anger and negativity that are inherent in holding a grudge. And some people refuse to forgive.